Grovedaughter Witchery

Practical Magic - "Can I Get My Boyfriend Back?"

(I apologize in advance for the heterosexual nature of the language in this post, but I promise you, it’s relevant to the issue at hand, and the advice I have to give can be applied to any relationship.)

I’ve been getting a lot of asks lately from young women asking me how they can use magic to get an ex-boyfriend to fall in love with them / leave his girlfriend for them / rekindle their relationship after a break-up. My advice to these girls is always the same: "Honey, he ain’t worth your time."

The most recent set seem to deal with boyfriends who leave without a proper explanation or nothing more than a perfunctory one like, “I don’t feel the spark anymore.”

Ladies, this is not something that magic can fix. If someone’s feelings have changed, you don’t have much of a chance of changing them back with magic unless you subvert their free will, which can backfire in some pretty messy ways. Think about it this way: you two had a good thing going until he broke it off seemingly on a whim. This usually happens for one of three reasons.

One, he was having issues for a while and chose not to tell you, which shows that he communicates poorly and isn’t being honest with you about his feelings.

Two, he realized you were more serious about things than he was and decided to get out before he got “tied down,” which shows a lack of maturity and a lack of respect for you.

Or three…and this is the one you really don’t want to hear…he might have his eye on someone else. Again, a lack of honesty and a lack of respect.

Whatever the reason, he wasn’t honest with you and he gave you a lame excuse. Or worse, no explanation at all, which is a sure mark of a disrespectful jerk. That’s not the kind of person you want to win back. That’s the kind of person you put in your rearview with a solid “Your loss, dipshit” while you saunter merrily on toward the possibility of finding someone who actually deserves you.

Furthermore, trying to break up an existing relationship so you can get with someone is a shitty thing to do by any means. If the relationship is meant to end, it will, and then you’ll have your chance. If not, you need to look elsewhere.

And if the guy has you on the side, he’s not respecting you or his main girl, and that’s not a situation you want to be in, no matter how much you feel for him. These things always end in tears. Think about it: even if he ends his relationship to be with you, not only do you then catch the social flack for his disloyalty, you run the risk of him cheating on you later. If he’s done it one, he’ll do it again.

If you really want to fix your love life with magic, I suggest casting a spell to attract an ideal partner, rather than trying to get back someone who’s already broken your heart once and might go on to do it again.


The views expressed on this website are the Unshared Personal Gnosis of the witch known as Bree NicGarran. They are not intended to be taken as absolute truth, nor are they intended to invalidate the religious views of the reader. They are meant only as a suggestion and are limited by the knowledge of the writer. Please always be sure to double-check your sources, refer to medical texts, and read critically before using any information in your own practice. 

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